Please don’t make your first question a “How’s your love life?” believe me I will tell you “it’s non-existent.” I’ve actually been asked this so many times that I’m making my love life a taboo subject because it should be none of your business.
Please stop saying “No way! You’re too pretty to be single!” thank you for thinking that I’m pretty, but outer appearance does not equate to relationship status. Yes it’s been a really long time since I’ve actually been together with someone and it’s my decision, not yours.
Please stop comparing me with my friends who are happily in love. I am well aware that I am the lone ranger in the squad, love came in the “destined” time for them and I am very happy that it did, you don’t know their story and neither do you mine, so stop comparing.
Please don’t make assumptions that I’m with someone because you often see me mention them on Twitter, or post pictures with them or even because you see me talk to them often, don’t make my social media accounts a validation mechanism, I still believe in privacy.
Please stop telling me that I should start dating, I actually already am considering it and it just so happens that nobody has passed stage 1 yet. I’m hard to get and I’m not pretending, I just really am but I ensure you that if you do get me, it will be worth it.
Please stop telling me that I’m too picky, of course I should be! Because the goal is to marry that person. I wouldn’t want to spend the rest of my life with someone who I was unsure of, of someone who can’t handle me, of someone who will tell me that I’m showing my true colors when I show him every single color that I have, of someone who will tell me to get my attitude straight when I’m being difficult, of someone who is on a different wavelength than me, of someone who I wasn’t truly, deeply and madly in love with.
I will flourish in that aspect with someone who I deem is “the one” for me, whom in return believes I am “the one” for him, in the right time. I’m in no rush, yes at times it gets lonely, and who wouldn’t want someone to stand by their side, right? But I do get by on my own.
Love is not a one way track, nor does is exist because of pressure from outside forces. Love should not be make believe nor forced, it should not be mistaken for momentary happiness, or the butterflies in your stomach. Love should not also be mistaken for admiration because the discovery of true love is a process that takes time, effort and patience.
So please, stop asking me why am I still single.
The Inverted Trish 